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You. Lead. Now. Leadership Training

Day 1:

In October, I attended a Leadership Training Conference in Wichita hosted by the Kansas Leadership Center. It was two and a half days long and I was completely out of my comfort zone while there. Big groups aren’t really my favored situation, especially not if I have to say anything to everyone. There were about 150 people in our largest group and to speak in this group it was required to use a microphone, so that everyone could hear. I don’t like microphones…

This was an experience I knew was going to stretch my limits, that is what I expected and I wanted to ensure that I made the most of my time. The first thing that I did outside of my comfort zone was during registration I sat at a table that was already occupied by people I didn’t know. This problem doesn’t seem like a big deal to most people, but it truly terrifies me. What if they talk to me, how I will know what to say, what if they don’t talk to me, what’s wrong with me, and so many other things ran through my mind. However, the ladies at the table were very friendly, they introduced themselves to me and we had a couple of nice conversations before the conference started.

Another thing that took all the courage I could muster was to use the microphone to speak to the large group on the first day. I had some encouragement from my neighbors, because they thought my input was valuable enough for the entire group. It was nice to feel like I could add to the conversation instead of just being a bystander, which is in my comfort zone. During and after my sharing to the group my face turned beet red, but I’m used to that and I really don’t mind it any more. I feel like it’s one of those things if I don’t draw people’s attention to it, they have more important things to think about. Like how nervous they are to speak or how red their face would get if they did.

There are different things that I have tried to practice to help calm myself down, but the idea that everyone is relatable and has shared experiences with each other is what helps me the most. After the first day was over, I decided to take a look at my problem again to see if I covered all the bases with it. I was really glad that I took the time to do that because I believe it was very helpful going into Day 2.

How do you act when you are nervous? Please share your experiences with us!

-Karrlita F.