Happy Friday, have a wonderful weekend!


We are nearing the last week of January, the first month of the year. It is a common practice for people to make New Year’s resolutions. Some people want to lose that holiday weigh, gain a healthier lifestyle, quit smoking, or spend less time staring at screens. How are you doing with your resolution? Many folks do not last the entire year.

Almost one-tenth of people who decide on a resolution can’t even last a week into the New Year. It seems like a week should be easy to handle, are the changes that difficult?  I wonder how people choose their goals and what knocks them off track. People have very busy schedules and maybe changes interrupt those routines. Possibly, the item they chose to abstain from is just too important to give up long term or not important enough to think about.

By February, about a third of participants have lost the motivation to continue with their resolutions. One month of working on a new habit is a good try and has benefits.  If someone can go an entire month with their chosen change, what happens to stop it? I really love chocolate and I have gone a day, a week, and a month without eating chocolate. If I don’t think about and it’s not around, I can go without chocolate for a while. However, if I have to think about the fact that I can’t have chocolate, that it’s not an option for me, I’m going to be craving it much more.

I don’t have a New Year’s resolution this year. I have tried it before, but realized a New Year isn’t a proper catalyst for me to have long lasting change. When I have had one, I would go until about mid-February and then lose motivation. Now,  I usually set myself goals at random times of the year, based on my schedule, motivation, and needs. They don’t usually last an entire year, but they do get redefined and it helps me to find a balanced perspective on what I want to do and what is best for me.

I feel like New Year’s Resolutions are setting people up for failure.  If it seems that a new year is good time to start better habits or get rid of habits you think are bad, then you made need more support than the year changing. Sometimes, people choose a big change with one step to “just do it”, if your habit has been with your most of your life, you need smaller steps which are not usually incorporated into a yearly resolution. People can get discouraged by a blunder or two and then give up entirely. I think we should be more forgiving to ourselves when we do set goals.

Did you set a resolution for the New Year? If you are still going strong, you are in line with at least a third of the general population. If you have already lost the motivation, you are not alone either. Please, don’t give up. If you truly feel that you need to make a change for the better, not just jumping on the bandwagon, then adapt your goal to your needs. Things that can help: find support, create a plan, and be flexible with it. Real change takes time, but it also takes action.

-Karrlita F>

Please share a resolution/goal you have or why you chose to opt out of this tradition.