Kids will be kids
Happy Friday the 13th! Enjoy the “amazing” weather that is expected!
As a kid, I was bullied, a lot of people were, as an Adult I am aware of that. However, at the time it certainly felt like I was the only one. I would hear people all the time blame bullying on “kids will be kids”. it’s important to realize that “being a kid” should not excuse bullying behaviors and honestly, maybe if it stopped with kids that would be different. Bullying happens at all ages.
I was bullied throughout my entire grade school career; it wasn’t just over one thing. It was everything and anything that someone could come up with. It was like every facet of my being came under attack in those 6 years. A very crucial period to determine who I was and it was punctured by all this negativity. I think when I was in my first year of middle school, I had some strange luck and I didn’t experience bullying in school after that. Honestly by the time I was in high school, I was friends with almost every clique that we had. I enjoyed getting along with everyone, but I know some people don’t get that relief from it.
Things were great at school, but outside of school there was so much negativity still going on and it had become “the norm” for me. I didn’t really know that other people didn’t constantly experience what I had been dealing with for as long as I could remember. I figured after I got out on my own away from school, I would have more power over my experiences. That was true for the most part.
When I was 19, I had a guy at least twice my age call me four eyes, because he was upset about something. Four eyes really? The last time I was called that was in kindergarten. Regardless, those two words broke me down like I was 5 years old all over again. Bullying stays with people. I’m a little older now, but I still remember everything that I was teased about and all the names that I was called. I can handle myself much better, but I have to remember who I am and know that what those kids said when I was younger do not define me.
What do you choose to define you?